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Beth Forrester's avatar

As usual this is such a good read Ellie - I always find focusing a bit tricky to describe, but you’ve really captured something about it here. I know how valuable it must be, as an approach to your work with addiction.

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Ellie Nova's avatar

Thank you Beth xx

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Peter Gill's avatar

Beautifully written and compassionate take on parts Ellie. Thanks so much for sharing your appreciation of this gem from Focusing..and the Gem of Focusing!

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Adam PT's avatar

Excellent article. I admire how throughout your articles, you treat yourself (or in this case the parts of yourself) with deep understanding and compassion. Here, you show how to listen to what a craving is (or was) actually trying to say, similar to what I’ve recently talked about. The craving isn’t ugly, or a demon, or a coercive force—it’s an unmet core need in disguise, and core needs are innocent. That roaring lion is just a kitten that wants some attention—framing changes everything. Thank you so much for sharing.

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Ellie Nova's avatar

Thank you Adam - yes, this compassionate perspective absolutely changes everything

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Fierce Goat's avatar

Thank you so much for a beautiful post! You inspired me to purchase the book "Untangling". Moving forward in 2025 with the word "prism". Prism because if I move it slightly I get a different perspective. I imagine this will be a helpful image to hold while I practice untangling my parts!

Again, thank YOU!

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Ellie Nova's avatar

Oh you are so welcome 💛 I’m so glad you found this helpful. And I love the image of the prism to remember how we can shift our perspective x

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