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Beautiful Ellie, just beautiful.

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Thank you Emma xx

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Thank you for sharing with us Ellie, sending you much love over these days xx

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Thank you Lyndsay xx

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Beautiful words Ellie. They are so moving. Sending you so much love. Xxx

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Thank you xxx

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Love the phrase “excessively gentle”. I’ve had a lot of grief coming up this time of year - and have welcomed it more than any other time. I’m glad you are bringing / allowing grief into the light this time of year… thank you.

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It is amazing how welcoming it can bring so much relief.

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This was beautiful, thank you ❤️

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“Here you are

strong as love

shaking my tender heart.”

“This time you have to stay.”

Ellie, this poem is beautiful.

I have changed my relationship to grief. I consider it a friend, actually. Sobriety introduced me to this friend and helped me realize I can trust it.

I recently heard a child answer the question: what does love mean? The child said, “when you love someone you want them to stay.”

We only know grief intimately when we’ve loved deeply.

Love means staying. I think when we stay in our grief, we are honoring the ones we loved the most.

Thank you for sharing this. It helps me hold, stay with and trust my grief more.

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Allison your words have brought tears to my eyes. Thank you. Gosh those words from the child… Yes grief and love are two wings of the same bird x

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Children - constantly teaching US, right?!?!

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It was only when I stopped numbing myself with booze that I actually felt the pain of the loss of my mum who died 20 odd years ago, It visits now a few times a year and I just let it in . I would NEVER have managed that whilst drinking, ever. Thanks for your words affirming my sober life . Cheers to that xx

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Thank you for sharing this Leanne. What a gift to be able to feel that grief, that loss and that love xx

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